Then don't say anything at all.
I don't have to say anything at all, I guess. This speaks for itself.
When we spoke this past summer for the first time about my recent conversion, an ELCA pastor that I consider to be a good friend said (among other things) about it, "Well, I am sorry for you."
These words have haunted me almost every day since he said them.
And seeing this, how can I not feel sorry for him - and for all of my ELCA brothers and sisters?
Lord, have mercy.