Wednesday, September 26, 2007

If You Can't Say Something Nice ...


Then don't say anything at all.

I don't have to say anything at all, I guess. This speaks for itself.

When we spoke this past summer for the first time about my recent conversion, an ELCA pastor that I consider to be a good friend said (among other things) about it, "Well, I am sorry for you."

These words have haunted me almost every day since he said them.

And seeing this, how can I not feel sorry for him - and for all of my ELCA brothers and sisters?

Lord, have mercy.

7 comments:

Poem Master 3000 said...

They know how to make a good website.

-C said...

So do I, but that's quite beside the point.

Except that at least you're saying something nice.

DebD said...

Sometimes if very, very hard being with my pre-Orthodox friends. One is a (female) seminarian student (who would probably love that site and copy the "Lord's Prayer"). Its hard to be a friend and encourager when its "in my face" sometimes. Its hard to walk that shaky ground between being a friend but also standing for Truth. On one hand I don't want to be a wishy-washy, "your brand of Christianity is just as good as my brand" Christian. I also don't want to become some puritanical Orthodox person who stands in judgment over everyone and every practice.

My husband (who is not Orthodox) keeps me from going too far one way or the other. At least I hope he does! :)

-C said...

Generally, being with my non-Orthodox friends is very easy as almost all of them have been overhelmingly supportive - thanks be to God for this. But I do find that our conversations no longer center around church - and I suppose that's a blessing in itself, too. It's probably what's best for our friendship.

I'm afraid that I know some who would probably think the theology expressed on this site is wonderful, too - and I pray for them. But it doesn't cease to make me grieve.

I completely identify with your desire not to choke your friendships out with judgement, as I think this would be easy for someone like me to do. Instaed, I try hard to keep my mouth shut - which is not at all easy for me to do, but it is often the most loving thing I can do.

Matt said...

I drive by their building once in a while. It always makes me feel sad. I always wonder what happened to the Lutherans. I'm not trying to be mean but it seems like they haforgot at least one "Sola" and it was a downward spiral from there.

Lutheran Lucciola said...

I'm catching up on your blog....so you went from ELCA to Orthodox?

Yeah, this herchurch stuff is a hoot. Actually, it makes me cry, but I might be stopping by there sometime soon.;-)

-C said...

I did leave the ELCA to become Orthodox, though I still work in an ELCA parish.

My sadness and angst over this sort of thing was not the primary reason for my departure from the ELCA - but I admit that it played a role, and I eventually lost my ability to ignore it anymore ... but thank God I never saw any of it in my own ELCA parish.

So by the grace of God, yes, I am Orthodox, but still hold close my relationships with many Lutherans, for which I'm glad.

You'll be stopping by herchurch? for worship (or whatever?). You must have a much stronger stomach than I do.